In this article, we’ll cover a few tips that will get you through a hard move, and help you settle in your new home without any unwanted drama and stress that the process might bring.
Moving During a Difficult Time
Moving Under Stress by Sergio
The majority of people that move to a new home are forced to do this either by getting a new job, finding their perfect home, or as a result of personal relationship problems. Add the stress that comes from a major life change such as a divorce, death, or a job loss on top of a move can push one to the breaking point. Feeling that you don’t have a choice in the decision to move leaves you bitter and depressed. If this is the situation you find yourself in, consider these tips:
- Usually, when moving people tend to get rid of everything they haven’t used in a while. However, when you’re going through trying times, it may help to keep few personal things around you even though they seem useless. Go easy on the purging, and take what you need to help you get through. Familiar things at your new home will make you feel more secure and comfortable.
- Try not to make rash decisions. Usually, these end up being the ones you’ll regret later on. Throwing away a flat-screen TV just because your ex-partner bought it for you for your birthday may not be the smartest idea. Before throwing away anything reminding you of a bad memory, consider its value and the disadvantages it may bring you. If you do decide to get rid of that object, try selling it or donating it to whoever might be interested.
- Ask for help—don’t let yourself struggle through the whole process of moving on your own. People around you will be more than happy to lend a hand and offer support. Don’t feel embarrassed to ask for help with any task you’re facing. People enjoy feeling useful, and you’ll be happy to have a few extra hands to help out with the long to-do list.
- Moving is not only emotionally but also physically draining. You’ll no doubt feel tired and exhausted. Don’t be so hard on yourself—try to give yourself what you need. Sleep when you’re tired, take some time off when you’re sick of packing, or take a while to sit down and watch a movie even though you feel like there’s still a lot to do.
Kids and Moving
As disruptive as moving can be for parents, the experience can be even more traumatic for kids who may not be a part of the decision to move and may not understand it. Here are a few tips on how to help your children adjust to the move:
- Be understanding and acknowledge all the feelings your child is showing—positive or negative. Communicate and talk about all the changes that are going to happen after the move to help prepare your child for your new home.
- Your child will be facing a lot of new and different things which will certainly bring about some stressful moments. Many kids thrive on familiarity and routine, so try to stick to some daily habits to make it easier for them.
- Being patient is a key to success—give your child plenty of time to adjust. Some will ease into the new situation slowly, and some will dive in head first. Everyone handles things differently.
- Make time for saying goodbye to their favourite places, things, or activities. Is there a special place your child loves to visit—a museum, park or ice-cream shop? Plan a family trip to some of them and make sure everyone is included. Same goes for saying goodbye to close friends. This is exceptionally difficult and needs to be handled with care. Some may want a goodbye party, some just a small get-together or a sleepover. Be there to provide help and accommodate any of their wishes as best you can.
Moving Your Pets to a New Home
Moving to a new home can be just as stressful on your pet as it is on you. Follow these steps to help your pet get through this change:
- Talk to your vet before the move to determine whether your pet many need any special medication for moving day, such as nervousness or car sickness medicine.
- Pack all your pet’s necessary items for the move in a special suitcase/bag to keep it close at hand on moving day. Don’t forget water, food, treats, medication, bedding, and a few toys. It also helps to bring some of your dirty laundry to give your pet a familiar scent to be around when in your new home.
- Make sure your dog or cat has a collar with a tag listing your phone number and new address in case it gets lost during the move.
- Take your dog or a cat on a tour of the house and slowly give them access to all the rooms so they can settle down and become accustomed to the new environment.
- Move small animals (like birds and hamsters) in their cages, covered with a lightweight fabric. Remove water, food trays, and any other objects that might come loose and injure them. Try to keep the temperature constant to reduce physical stress.
New Neighbours and Housewarming
Meeting your new neighbours after you move into the neighbourhood is certainly not easy at times. Some may be shy and concerned about their privacy, some may be very talkative and curious about their new neighbour. Check out your new neighbourhood ahead of time, and try to observe any common ground between you and the residents—introducing yourself when the time comes will be easier with a few ice-breakers.
A great way to meet people is to throw a housewarming party. Invite all the neighbours and get to know them in a fun, casual atmosphere. Remember, no one likes getting caught in lengthy, boring conversations, so small-chat is all that’s needed to be a fabulous host. Finally, express thanks to your housewarming guests for coming, and don’t forget to have a great time.